Category: Book Club

  • Get to work (and get a life)…

    Get to work (and get a life)…

    My friend Anna Leahy suggested Get to Work: . . . And Get a Life, Before It’s Too Late to me awhile back when I was blogging about work-mother balance.  I was a bit wary of the book after reading the reviews, but I’m so glad that I bought it anyways (used for $.01–what a deal!)…

    As a result of my reading most of this slim book this evening, we had a pretty heated discussion around the dinner table about the concessions that women tend make in their careers because of spouse and family.  I find Hirshman’s argument quite compelling, that women need to choose early on to have careers so they have more choices later in their life (instead of being dependent on a spouse and having only-marginal employability).  She points out that our society needs to change to make home-work more balanced between spouses and that there is much work that can be done on the political front to give women more leverage in the workforce.  But her larger point is that for the most part women forgo successful and satisfying careers willingly–and that is what needs to change before men take a larger role at home and before the social policies favor women who work outside the home.

    Perhaps what was most satisfying about the discussion around the dinnertable was when the kids acknowledged how crazy I was back when I was a stay-at-home Mom and how happy they saw me become after I went back to school and began teaching.  And while I don’t necessarily regret any of my choices over the years (I’ve always done the best I could), I began to wonder how my life would have been different if I’d made career aspirations a more important part of decision-making–I wouldn’t have gotten a PhD in History if I was thinking about my long-term employability, that’s for sure.  I probably would have focused my aims on medical science, as I did when I was an undergraduate.  And while I don’t think I would have necessarily been any happier if I’d had a career earlier on in my life, I suspect that if I did I could have avoided those awful years of depression that resulted from being financially dependent on a spouse who no longer wanted to be married.

    Soon I’ll be scheduling a Book Club to discuss the Hirshman book along with The Price of Motherhood.  If you’re interested in joining in, we’ll have an “in real life” meeting with those of you who are local to SoCal as well as a “virtual” bookchat over skype.  Fill out THIS FORM if you’d like to join in the discussion and I’ll send you a follow-up email to arrange the timing that works best (note: form responses will only be viewed by me and I won’t send you any emails except to arrange this Book Club).

  • Book Club: Dispossessed

    If you haven’t yet weighed in on our last book group selection, “The Ones Who Walk From Omelas,” please do so soon! I’d like us all to get focused on our next selection: Dispossessed, by Ursula LeGuin.

    Can we also set up a time to meet and discuss in person and/or via webcam? If you’d like to join in the pilgrimgirl bookgroup meeting, please drop a line in the comments and let me know which of these three dates would work best for you: April 22, 27, or 29. If you’d like to join in via webcam, chime in on the best dates for you, too.

    Oh, and we’ll be meeting at chez pilgrimgirl in Irvine, CA. :)

  • David’s Review of "Omelas": A Perfect Story

    Below you can find some meaty portions of DavidK’s review of “The Ones Who Walk From Omelas.” May I strongly suggest that you take the time to read through the entire review in addition to these excerpts!

    Now please chime in with your own thoughts on this text, too. I will be happy to print them as separate posts here if you’d like, or I can create a list of hyperlinks to the posts on your own blogs. Your call. :)

    While not everybody I meet shares my affection and respect for LeGuin’s work, many of the readers I encounter who wouldn’t even normally mess with fantasy fiction know this story. And I think there’s a good reason for that. “The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas” is a story that you read and it stays with you, cropping up every now and again as a theme of memory, a twinge of the conscience. It’s not a story you read and forget easily, or pass off as a bit of pleasant entertainment.

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    One might be tempted to think, at first, that “Omelas” dispenses with plot, but this isn’t the case. There’s the setup (the celebration, and the comparisons of Omelas to our own civilization), the climax (the child), and the resolution (the choice of the inhabitants of Omelas to either reconcile themselves to the child, or not). Beginning, middle, end. It’s just that the story is not the story of any one individual, but the story of the way in which the entire city deals with the consequences and costs of its happiness.

    Enough on technique. As much as I admire LeGuin’s bravery in crafting her fictions, and her incredible command of language, the most resonant thing for me about her work is its moral import. I cannot think on this story but that I think of how, in the United States, we are not a particularly happy people. And yet we do have a considerable amount of material security that we take for granted. Even the most wretched homeless in the United States can usually find enough food to eat (albeit from dumpsters) and find some shelter at night. It terrifies me to think that, in other countries, that even these most fundamental necessities are not guaranteed. I watched a documentary some weeks ago about children in Uganda who walk for miles every night to get from their internment camps to public buildings in distant townships, in a feeble attempt to avoid rape or being pressed into service as child soldiers, and those images still plague me. And the damn thing of it is that what material security we enjoy in America–that even the poorest of us enjoys–really comes at somebody else’s expense, when you stop and think about it. The material abundance we have is the result of somebody’s pain, somewhere–somebody has to work to make the products we buy for such a small portion of our disposable income, somebody’s country is being diminished as its resources are being stripped away. We don’t see these people who work in factories sweatshops and mines and plantations. Part of this is as a result of their distance from us; we shut them away, out of sight and out of mind, in that cellar closet that we optimistically refer to as the developing world. But ignorance is no excuse in the information age, is it? No–more often, we are unconscious of this kind of thing because we choose not to be. Or else we are conscious of it, from time to time, but find some way to accept it, and find some way to absolve ourselves of the responsibility for the lives we lead.

    Does happiness exist in infinite amounts? Or is happiness a finite thing–can I only be happy at somebody else’s expense? And even if it would only be the expense of one person, would that justify my own happiness?

    I really don’t know. I think on these things, for hours at a time, and just find my mind spinning around, arriving at no conclusions, my conscience stinging the back of my skull.

    Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one? Or do the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many? The *Star Trek* movies don’t really help in figuring that one out.

    Reading “The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas” doesn’t make me feel good about the world. It doesn’t make me feel secure, or that everything will be okay in the end. It doesn’t reinforce my convictions. Which is exactly why I feel the need to pick it back up, every now and again, and wonder how many children there are out there, shut up in closets, suffering so I don’t have to.

    Gentle reader, this story represents my very ideal of what fantasy fiction can and should do. Rather than offering up a mindless escapism, this fiction holds up the mirror of metaphor to our own reality, and offers up a distorted reflection that is somehow more true than a literal representation. LeGuin’s fantasy has all the power and truth of dream, and is profoundly human for all of its flight from our mundane reality. Stories like this are why I write, and stories like this are what I hope to someday write. Not to compete with Ursula K. LeGuin, because I don’t think I could improve upon her work in any way, and because I don’t think I need to re-say what she has already said. But in my own way, I hope to capture that dreaming truth, that myth that can say so much more than data and direct exposition ever could.

    This is, I think, a perfect story.

  • literary loose ends

    For a way-better-than mine summary and discussion of Cormac McCarthy’s Blood Meridian [warning: not for the faint of heart], see DavidK’s blog.

    For those of you who are eager to get going on the pilgrim book club, let’s start with “The Ones Who Walk From Omelas”, which you can find online here.* I hereby nominate DavidK (self-avowed LeGuin fan) to write the first post on the story, and then we can all chime in with our observations, comments, queries, and high-fives.

    Note: All book group posts can now be easily found under the sidebar category of “Book Club.”

    *Hat tip to Brooke for the link.

  • Bibliophilia


    My book-loving friends:

    I have a proposal for a pilgrim book group*, where we (meaning all of you interested pilgrimgirl readers out there) could select a text and have a book chat together. Similar to the Mindonfire book group, our discussion would include meetings online, in person, and via webcam.

    I would like to propose that we begin our group with two readings from Ursula LeGuin:
    1) her short story “The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas”
    2) her novel The Dispossessed.

    I chose these particular works because both grapple with utopian communities and the limitations of such.

    Ok, so I know it wasn’t very democratic of me to choose the first readings myself, but I hope y’all won’t hold that against me. So please chime in if you’re interested in joining in the discussion and then we’ll make some more concrete plans for structuring our analysis of LeGuin’s stories.

    *Thanks go to RyanH for being the catalyst for this group